I'm still doing some thinking about whether or not I want to make my blog private. I just recently started using Dro pbox to upload my pictures to my page. One of my blog friends Lindsay told me about this. This is a way to secure your pictures so people can't download them to their own computer. I am thinking I might just stay public for a few months and see how this drop box works for me. I don't mind people getting to see my pictures. I just sometimes get random weird comments. Its not that they are mean or creepy, they are just weird and I don't understand them. This is what prompts me to want to go private. It reminds me of all the people I don't know out there looking at my son and gosh knows what?
However when I started this blog, I made so many new friends. So many girls that were going through the same struggles I was, And now I have even more friends through my blog. People who give me mom advice and just make me laugh. I just want to make sure my son is safe through this. That is the top priority in my mind.
So with the help of my mom and husband(the people I look to for answers when I don't know what to do). My husband thinks I need to ignore the weirdo's and he thinks it will be just fine. I understand what he's saying.
my mom said:
I did see your blog last night and to be perfectly honest, my first thought was definitely....oh don't do it!! Only because you have such a great following and you are constantly meeting girls that you tell me have just brought so much to your life in regard to child raising, friendship and more. I think that you will lose a huge following and not only that, but more importantly lose new people that would have come in to your life. I know that having your child's picture plastered about is not something anyone wants, but I would personally go to the protecting of the photos like you suggested you might do before going to the private status....that is just my opinion. I know that whenever I click on a blog that says it is private....I have never even once attempted to go through the process to be admitted...it is just not worth it.
Yes thats right ladies, I copied and pasted what my mom wrote me. I felt like it was true and good advice.
So I might just sit on this decision for a while and in the mean time keep using the secure drop box site. I'm pretty sure that makes my pictures safe? I will let all of you know if I choose to go Private and I will get everyone's email addresses.
I enjoy keeping up with all of you and your families and would really like to keep up the friendships I have started.
So until I decide (which I will take time to make this decision) I am still here. I appreciate all your help with my decision girls and I appreciate all of you non crazy's who follow and keep up with us. Sorry to be all over the place with this. Its just me thinking out loud.
Ok enough of that for now. I will get back to my family while I do some more thinking on this subject.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
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I just found your blog so I'm glad you hadn't made it private:) I hope that for at least a little while you keep it public! You have such an interesting story that I think is great for you to share!
Iw would of course follow! But your mom said exactly what Ithink I would have if a blog is private i don't email to get in...i just go to the next one...also i forget to check private blogs sometimes! they don't show up on your google reader!
But i see what you are saying! i want/need to protect faith more too and do that picture thing! good idea!
and whoever made weird comments ( hopefully you didnt think it was me ;)
is just that! WEIRD!
No, the person that made the strange comments was not you or any of my followers. I've had 3 or 4 comments that were just straight weird and they were all from someone that I have never heard of or met and when I went to their page, they didn't have any blog posts or anything. It was just weird!
Hi There! I don't believe I have ever commented to your blog but I found your blog through another follower. I believe from Hoping for my own Peanut...I have been following your blog since you have been about 7 months pregnant. I just thought I would put my two cents out there are say that while I would respect any decision to go private (as I too have had struggles posting any pictures of myself in my own blog for that very reason) I have found it nice to find young women to relate to when it comes to being pregnant and raising a family. I am only 23 and am being induced this coming Tuesday with my first child. I love reading blogs on others going through the same thing I am going through. While I don't often comment on blogs, I do find some sort of reassurance in knowing there are other ladies out there like me. Hopefully that makes more sense and doesn't come off as creepy, lol. Good luck with your decision. It is a personal one, but as long as your making all the right percausions in protecting yourself and your family with pictures, information, etc. I would love to see you keep your blog public!
I love the idea of protecting pictures! Any chance you might want to do a blog post on how to do this?!?!
I don't know if you've started yet, but I went down to your most recent picture you put up to see if it was protected and it still let me right-click to hit save-as. I didn't save it... promise!!! Just wanted to see if it was working.
Once you figure it out pass the info along becuase it's an amazing idea!!!!
Thanks :)
Wow, I'm going to try that. I hadn't heard to that program. What a great mom you have! I think I'm a tad jealous! My mom is afraid of the computer!!
I'd say that you got great advice from your mom and hubby! That program sounds really cool, I think I might try that as well.
yes stay public and listen to your mommy ha ha!!! I get weird comments in different languages on posts that are like a year old.. I dont get it either!
Totally unrelated...
I saw your comment on Erica Denton's post (I'm a friend of hers) and thought I'd pass along some mommy advice.
I also have a 4 month old who is teething, and I came across the Humphrey's teething pellets and they really seem to work. (I get the very cherry flavored ones)
Just thought I might throw that out there for ya if you haven't already tried it!
Cooper is adorable by the way!!!
Hello! I've been a reader for about 5 months now, Cooper was born about 2 weeks after my son and when I was pregnant I really enjoyed reading about other ladies going thru what I was!
I totally get making it private but the other side that I think about is that there are creeps everywhere and what is the worst that can happen? Perhaps that is too optimistic or naive?
Regardless I've really enjoyed reading about you guys - esp since my sister in law was diagnosed with pcos - it was nice to be able to understand a bit more what she was dealing with and be able to offer happy ending stories.
Meg
I am so glad that you have not made you blog private without me seeing your post! I have been such a horrible blogger friend lately with my crazy life going on too. lol. I love that you copy/ pasted your Mother's comment because it is wonderful advice. I think that protectin your pictures is a wonderful idea, and you should do a blog post on this or have your friend do a guest post! Hope that the weirdos leave you be now! =)
I share the same concerns about weirdos looking into my blog which is why I decided to blog anonymously and with no pictures of any faces. It will be hard to know what to do once the little ones arrive but yes, I agree that their security and safety is of the utmost importance. Do whatever feels right to you, even if it seems paranoid or overly protective. You don't want to have regrets about anything you've done. I know it's so hard - I too have made lots of bloggyland friends that have been so supportive so it's hard to find the balance.
I can definately relate to what your mom says as i think about that too, hence why mine is still public
But i will tell you that no matter what you do, no picture is safe on the internet, there is always a way to copy the pic, maybe not download but all you have to do is right click on a photo and click "save as" to your computer. Some women put a code in that disables right clicking but you can still highlight the pic and copy and save that way.
Its just one of the disadvantages of posting on the internet.
I dont know what anyone would want with some one elses pics anyways but to act fake and pretend they are their own but i know who my kids are so i don't worry about it.
I have heard of someone having a pic stolen off the internet and it was blown up and used for posters (advertisement) in another country but my pics i usually downsize anyways before posting them.
Also, you can put a tracker on your page, it will track everyone who comes to your blog, IEP addresses, location,time,how long they viewed your page, everything they click on, how they got to your blog, and the last thing they clicked on before they left your page.
Another is to disable anonymous commenters and have it to where you have to moderate the comment before its posted on your site.
I am contemplating this as well. I am with your hubby on this one as well. I think its fine. I get random comments sometimes as well. I do only have 37 followers though. I like your blog and hope you dont go private as it is much harder to keep up on people when they arent in your blog role.
Thanks for taking my advice babe.
Hi dear! I email you tonight! And I really will make a video of how to use it if you want or if anyone else wants to consider using Dropshots. Haha, maybe they should give me a job, since I'm promoting them!! :) I agree with your Hubby & Momma, but also understand wanting to protect Coop!! So hopefully Dropshots can give you the best of both worlds! :)
Hi! The jumper? I think we started about 6 months, to tell you the truth I was a little worried about starting too early on that too... He was in the exersauser earlier too and enjoyed that, but I do think the jumper puts more pressure on baby's back when he jumps, so I thought it would be better to wait. But I have friends who had their daughter in it so much earlier, at 3 or 4 months, I dunno... :)
*wink* *wink*
Tune in tomorrow...
Luv ya,
Val
I just happened to come across your blog and feel so blessed to have found it. I was just diagnosed with PCOS this past week and it has me on a complete roller coaster. My husband and I having been ttc for over a year and now we know why we haven't. It's encouraging to see someone with the same problems yet you still were able to have a baby. We are just in the beginning stages of deciding what to do, but my dr. wants to start clomid. I was wondering what steps you took prior to IVF? Thanks for sharing!
Hey Summer, I just tried to go to your page and leave you a comment but you don't have a comment place so I couldn't. I wanted to answer your questions you had for me. I hope you come back and look at this....
We did do meds that were basically chlomid, We used Follistim and Femara and then Gonal F. We actually got Pregnant on our very first try with the fertility drugs, however it resulted in a miscarraige and I was devastated. We tried the meds for 4 or 5 more months and then when nothing was still happening our doctor told us our best bet was to do IVF. I was really scared and I was like you guys. I thought God would make it happen if it was meant to be. However I realized that sometimes God gives people the ability to help each other here on earth so that we can fix problems we have. I feel like God helped my husband and I to go to the IVF clinic and gave us the strength to make it through all the things we had to do to get pregnant. It is emotionally draining but all very worth it. We ended up with our amazing son and nothing could be more meant to be than he is!
PCOS does make it allot harder to get pregnant but I know women who did the chlomid and had babies that way and I know others who had to go do the ivf. But most of us end up having babies. Its just allot harder than other women. It brought my husband and I so much closer and made me so much closer to God going through all of this.
I wish you guys so much luck, My prayers are with you. I became a follower of your blog so I could check in.
Thanks for checking out my blog. Please come by any time.
You better believe I will follow you if you go private. Whatever you decide is okay with me. :)
PS-Hi, Cooper!!
My thoughts coincide with your mom. When blogs are private I just don't bother to go through the process of trying to be allowed to read it. I too have made so many friends and gotten support through my blog that I can't imagine not having that. I just always to make sure to never give my location away and go about that. The picture private thing is a good idea though, how do I do that?
Thanks so much for answering my questions. We are just starting our journey and I pray it is a short one. My doctor put me on a clomid regimen of clomid, estradol, and progesterone. I am officially on day two of my meds. I really pray this works for us. I have heard that IVF is quite expensive and of course our insurance won't cover one penny. I am frustrated by the entire experience, but that won't stop us from doing what we have to do to have a precious angel. Thanks again for sharing your story. It's great to know there are other women out there who can relate!
*I learned how to turn comments on...lol! I'm still new to the blog world!
Oh, I'm so sorry that you are having problems. I think that from now on when I post pictures I am going to have them marked. I Have been thinking about the very same issues. However, I went Private once and I personally didn't like it. You have a limit to 100 readers. I have a lot of family members that read my blog that aren't followers and they were always have problems logging in. I know you will make the best decision for yourself, but I did want to throw that out there.
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