I had a bad few days (Thursday and Friday). I was feeling like the daycare decision wasn't a good choice and regretting putting him in. I was so upset Thursday night for a few different reasons. A friend of mine actually picked up Cooper from Daycare for us early on Friday so he wouldn't have to stay all day. That made me SOOO HAPPY! So my attitude had changed for the better. It was the weekend. I got to spend quality time with my boys in the warm sun. Cooper has never really gotten to go outside much. When he was born it was changing to fall and was too cool for an infant to be outside. Then winter came and now finally the sun is out and the weather is nice. I had this wonderful image of us waking up Saturday, Me cleaning my entire house spotless and feeling that amazing feeling of accomplishment as we strapped Cooper into his stroller (big boy style, no more car seat on top). Us taking a walk with the dogs, Cooper staring around at all the tree's the sun, the park. Awe what a wonderful image it was. I was so excited.
Saturday morning I woke up and I walk into Cooper's room where He and daddy are sitting. Julian says to me "He's sort of got a runny nose". I was like "Oh no". Sure enough crazy runny nose boy he was.
He went down for a nap a few hours later and when I went to get him out of his crib when he woke up I found this......
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I mean isn't that just so sad, Look at that sad litttle face ans swollen little eye. Makes me so sad!
I was shocked. His whole eye was swollen and purplish red colored. It had all those yuckies in it like he had pink eye. His nose was a faucet and now he had developed a cough and constant sneeze. MY GOSH, HOW FAST CAN A CHILD GO DOWNHILL! It broke my heart.
I was shocked at how quickly all of this developed. But Cooper was still in a good mood.
We called the doctors line and were told to take him to the minor emergency pediatrics office. We took him and the nurses and doctors were wonderful. They played with him and smiled and talked to him. He weighs 14 lbs 7 ounces now.
The doctor told us he has a cold that has caused an infection in his eye due to all the drainage and crud in his head. They gave him some eye drops, told us to keep using the little noses spray and keep sucking out the junk. So that's what we've been doing. Its sad though, seeing him this way. I hate seeing him sick.
He woke up this morning slightly better in the eye but he cold part is even worse.
STUPID DAYCARE. sorry, I'm just upset because I was hoping that his immune system would be a little stronger than this. One week at the daycare and he's already sick. He's never really been really sick before. He had a tiny cold after Christmas (like a one day cold) but nothing like this. It breaks my heart and makes me want to pull him out ASAP! But I know we have to try at least to get adjusted and give this a good try. If its still not working out for us I know we can find something else anytime. I just feel like he deserves to be somewhere clean and where he gets lots of love and I don't feel like he's getting that there. It kills me. Its a nice daycare and the people are nice. But I feel like he's too young to be there. When I went to pick him up Thursday I cried hard after I left. Because walking in that room reminded me of walking into a cattle barn. He was just sitting there in a toy by himself. Other babies were sitting in there toys by themselves. It was so sad. He deserves better. He is my baby boy and he deserves so much. He deserves love and attention and happiness. Call me a spoiling mama or whatever. I don't care if that's what it is. I just feel like he's too young. He isn't being spoiled, its called being loved. When he's older he can play and walk and talk and sing songs. But right now he's just stuck in some toy and left. I hate that! It makes me NEVER want to take him there again. Sorry for the rant but I'm dealing with so many conflicting emotions right now about it all.
Anyways, hopefully Coop will feel better soon. Until then I will take good care of him and make him feel the best I can. He's been sleeping on us and cuddling like you've never seen him cuddle before. Poor baby just doesn't feel good.
I hope the rest of you are having a good weekend.
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What happened? Hope everything is okay!
Seeing his poor face like that makes me so sad! Poor baby. That's what I feared about putting him into daycare, the being sick. I'm sorry he got sick so fast but it usually happens like that in daycare. I understand how you feel, like he deserves better. Daycare is a tough choice. I hope that if you feel like it's not working out for you that you can find another, more suitable, alternative that you can feel comfortable with.
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Awwww..poor coopy!! :(..I went thur the same thing with Mist. I put her in daycare for 1 week and she was sick more that week then she had been her whole life. Daycare wasn't for us. I ended up working different times then my husband so she could stay home with one of us at all times then finally just became a stay at home mommy.!
I feel so bad for you and Cooper. I'm just sitting here sobbing reading this post. Poor little thing with a cold. He does look so sad. And I'm so sorry you're feeling this way and having to go through this. It's heartbreaking to search and search for the best situation for your child and so hard when you're not sure if that's what you've chosen. I hope it gets better and gets worked out. I'm praying for you.
Poor baby...I'm sure it's difficult to take him to daycare and even harder to have him get sick after his first week. You looked so pitiful in the pictures you took...he's such a little cutie though!
That's a rough one...Matthew's colds always go into his eyes and it just makes them look so much more pathetic. Yes, they're going to get sick, but it is horrible to watch it happen so quickly. They're probably wondering "what the hell just happened? I was fine last night!" While we don't have any experiences with daycare, I can't help you there, but it sounds like it's getting pretty rough on you. Sorry about that...hang in there!
Aww poor poor little guy. I hope he feels better and soon!
Those pictures just break my heart. :(
I'm sorry daycare isn't going so well. It would be very hard to see him sitting alone in his toy. Maybe someone doing child care at home would be an option?
I am sorry he got sick but just remember the longer he is in the daycare situation the stronger his immune system will get. It will get better and he will get stronger and be able to fight off all those bad yucky germs on his own.
I worked at a daycare center all through high school and I could not imagine putting my children in there. But you also have to remember that he is so young he wont remember being put in those toys and left and if he wasnt crying then I am sure he was happy.
Its so hard bc as a mom you only want the best for your children and when it comes down to it being with your kids is what we always will think is best.
Maybe you could try a family daycare or a nanny so he has more one on one interaction with the person taking care of him?
I hope you can figure it out and don't stress too much. Hope you got to get outside for a little awhile. Avin is only 3 weeks old, our temps are only in the 40's and she has already been on 2 walks and we are going out again.. I NEED FRESH AIR!
Thinking about you :)
I'm sorry girl. Adalyn just got over that yucky cold. It went into her eyes too. She would wake up in the middle of the night and cry because she couldn't open her eyes due to that green gunk, it had glued them shut. That is probably one of the worse things about daycares, when one child get sick they tend to all get sick. I am dealing with the same thing and Addy only goes twice a week for 4 hours a day.
Oh sweetie, I am so sorry you're feeling this way. I understand how upset you are over this - you aren't crazy. I would feel the same exact way. It would hurt me to think that my little guys were just sitting in a toy all by themselves at daycare. xo
I hope Cooper feels better soon. In the meantime, give him loads of snuggles and love.
Oh poor baby, I am so sorry! It's really hard being in daycare with so many of the kids having older siblings in school , I think it's just easier to catch a cold. Poor baby, I know you want to protect him and don't want him to get sick..I am the same way. It's hard seeing your baby sick. On the other hand as crazy as it sounds colds do help to build their immune system. Or at least that's what the Dr. told us.
I am sorry this daycare isn't going so well, it would be hard to know he was just given a toy. Have you looked into an in-home daycare that only has a few kids. I know craigslist sounds crazy, but I do have a friend that found a lady who had a 4 year old and just needed some extra income while she stayed home already. Or you could start a photography business and then work from home...well these are my plans for this summer anyway! I figured I would invest in a great camera, start out charging something cheap like $50/$75 for an hour and all photos on a CD and go from there! Even on the weekends you may be able to make a few hundred, start off part time. Then you may be able to stay home with Coop Monster?? Just a thought! xoxo
Awwww poor little guy!!! I hope he is feeling better.
I am so sorry he got sick. Even sick, he is such a cutie :) I hope he gets better and soon!
omg, sweet Cooper, I'm so sorry he is sick :( I can totally hear your concerns and you feeling sad about the whole situation is so normal, I get concerned and sad any time I even think my baby is coming down with something... we moms are overprotective by design, I think! :) Gosh, I hope he gets better soon and some new ideas come forward as far as his daycare situation goes. Best wishes!
I am so sorry that Cooper got sick, he looks so miserable in those pictures. Poor Baby!
I almost cried too, when you were saying how he was just sitting in a toy. That broke my heart, and I have never even met you or him! You are a great mommy, I will pray for you and this situation!
Awww poor Cooper, I'm sure he'll start feeling better soon!
oh so sad!! Hope Cooper starts feeling better quick!
Sorry to hear about the daycare thing. How hard! We haven't had to put our girl in one, and sometimes it's hard having to get the bills paid each month with only DH working, but it's so worth being able to stay home with Sahara! I don't know what your financial situation is, or if you would be able to quit your job, but just know that God provides! Sometimes it's tough, but we have always gotten the bills paid, (somehow!), and He has never let us down!! I'll be praying for you and Coop!
Feel better Cooper! :)
Look at poor Coop! The eye is just over the top, he looks soo miserable. :( I'm glad he isn't too miserable.
I don't know how yo\u do daycare. You are much stronger than me. I hope you find a solution you're comfortable with, if you are constantly concerned you're just going to wear yourself down. Try and look at the bright side, he'll learn to use his imagination and entertain himself which could come in handy! You seemed much more settled before with this decision, I really hope it works out soon.
Oh Missy, I am sorry you and Cooper are so miserable! I wish I had something wonderful to tell you but this is life! There are pros and cons to home day care versus regular day care and the passing of germs is definitely worse with more children as is usually the case with a regular day care! I doubt Cooper sat in that toy all day. When I worked in Day Care I held the babies and played with them a lot. If I was the teacher in Coopers class I would love it!
One thing I know for sure is you will be making decisions for this child for the next 18years. Think about the options and make the best decision you can. Then try not to worry and think what if! It will torture you as it has me with John and Elizabeth! You make the best decision you can and go forward. If you decide it is best to change your decision then you do it. (As parents we get to change our mind whenever we want to)
I don't know if my decisions on John's schooling are the best. He has gone through some tuff times. But, I made the best decision at the time and we are sticking with it.
I hope Cooper gets well fast and just think that is one germ he has an immunity to now! You and Julian are smart parents! I know its hard but you will make good choices and Coop will be ok. Love you lots!
I am so sorry that little Coop is sick and the daycare situation isn't ideal. No one will ever take care of your baby as well as you do! We found a new nanny this weekend, but the fact that I have to leave him at all breaks my heart. I hope this week is better for y'all and thank you for the sweet award:)
His poor face :( That does break my heart! Marley has had pink eye a few times. Once in particular that I remember, she woke up and literally could not open her eyes they were BOTH crusted shut. Broke my heart! As far as daycare goes, she was the same way and as soon as she started going to daycare she got sick at first A LOT. But then her immune system got stronger (she had never been exposed to any germs before) she started getting used to it and now she doesnt get sick nearly as often. Just give it time! He'll be able to handle it. :) Have a great week!
Poor Cooper! I hope he gets to feeling better!
I cant imagine what you're going through with the daycare. Tucker goes to an in home sitter and I LOVE HER. Every day I walk in she's holding him or playing with him. She's great. I hope everything works out for the best, that little man does deserve all the lovin in the world! I'm sure he gets TONS from mommy and daddy when he gets home!
Ahhhh, poor little Coop! NO GOOD! I hope he is doing better this week!
awwwww he does look so sad and I am sorry that daycare isn't everything it should be...hope it gets better for you!
I almost wanted to warn you about this on his first day of daycare. Even the nicest cleanest daycares can give a brand new child a cold. He has not become accustomed to their germ pool and once hes been there for a few weeks it will get better.
I am a daycare provider myself and have worked in the centers. I AM COMPLETELY AGAINST center care for infants and toddlers. Under 3 years need to be cared for in a home environment with low ratios. The brain has developed 80% by the age of 3 years. They need to build a bond with one caregiver for this time and ideally grow up with the same kids in the childcare. Try and find a home daycare provider that u love and trust.
In the meantime use a cool mist humidifier at night that will really help. You can also give a him probiotics. I give my son Culturelle mixed into his applesauce or yogurt each day. It builds his immune system.
Looks like pink eye?! I'm just guessing, pink eye seems to be going around like wild fire lately.
It seems that every child that goes to a daycare seems to get sick a lot more than a home daycare or staying at home. Although, whenever they get older they do not get sick as much. I pray that Coop gets to feeling better very soon!
poor mama and cooper....hope you both get feeling better soon!
hugs...
I was going to suggest home day care also. My husbands neice is a home day care provider if you are ever interested just let me know. I don't know anything about day care centers but if i had work and have someone watch my babies, i would only go with the home day cares.
Poor Cooper, I am sorry he is so miserable and i hope he feels better soon, and i am sorry you are having such a rough time. ((hugs))
Por baby; he looks so pitiful but he will bounce back very soon. B is in daycare now & seems to have a runny nose 75% of the time; he some how managed to get pink eye before he even stepped his small feet in daycare though so I guess sickness is going to happen (daycare of not)but it stinks when they are so small & helpless :)
Poor Cooper! I hope he feels better soon! It is bound to happen, Mason was sick when he was like two weeks old (RSV) no daycare, no older siblings :(
Hope Cooper is getting better!!
Bless your sweet baby's heart. I hope he feels better soon! His poor little eye looks just awful. Thanks for the sweet comments! My dye test came back perfectly normal...so yea...open tubes! We had an IUI on monday. The doctor gave us a low percentage rate but i still have my fingers crossed.
Hope Cooper is feeling better and you are having peace about your decision. I wish I could help you guys out and be your nanny!! I would so love to! Have you looked at craigslist or care.com for a nanny? I am sure it will be still be hard leaving him, but he will get one on one love, care and attention and be exposed to a lot less germs.
Like everyone else has said, his immune system will be strengthened, this beginning phase is just tough, but it will get better! I am sure he loves being with the other babies and the socialization aspect!
Hope you're having a good week!
I hope he is feeling better. Hopefully the daycare will get easier or you all will find something that works for you all. I would totally offer but I am in WV! Dont think that would work.
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