There used to be a time, when I had what I like to call Me time!
I used to set aside about 30 minutes to an hour a night and let myself either blog, paint my nails, watch a movie, whatever my little heart desired. When Cooper was a tiny baby and I had time because all he did was sleep. I could hold him in my arms and blog with one hand :) Sure it took longer to type but oh well, I was enjoying snuggling with my little Mr. while still blogging.
Cooper is so active these days. Just like any other 1 year old. I'm finding it harder and harder to find time for me. Which is ok, that's what happens when you become a mom. I love it and I won't give up kids for me time any day. I try not to complain but every once in a while I realize that its been nearly 3 weeks since I've had even a tiny bit of me time. I haven't read blogs in darn near three weeks. I haven't painted my nails or taken the time to really shave my legs really good and not miss a few spots. I haven't watched one of my shows without getting up every couple minutes to play with Cooper or make dinner or get him in the bath. Its OK. Again I'm not complaining. I just need to figure out how to add more hours into my day. I just need to vent sometimes because I do feel like I don't have time for me ever. The more kids I have the more difficult this will be. Until one beautiful day when I might actually be able to stay home with my kids. DREAM COME TRUE!!! A girl can dream right??? I realize that staying home is quite a job. But I would hope that every day I could fit in even a second of me time if that were the case. Right now I get home at nearly 6:00 and want to spend every waking second with my Coop. I miss him so bad during the day. I hate not having more time with him. It truly breaks my heart. I just wish I had a way to make money at home and be with him and our next child all day. Right now we have IVF bills and more to come most likely. Its ok, we realize that is just part of our life and its ok. I just wish we could handle not both of us working full time. I need to find some miraculous way to work out of my house while still making a lot of money. Haha. I know what your thinking. Silly me huh.
Sorry for my rant. I just had to sit down and let it out. I have been promising myself that I will work out a way to have more time to do the things I want to do again. While still not compromising my time with Cooper. So far I haven't quite figured it out but I'm working on it.
Thanks for listening those of you who did. I figure lots of moms can relate with me on all of the issues I'm battling with. Its always nice to know I'm not alone.
- Meant to be a mom
- My name is Melissa, My hubby's name is Julian and we have two sweet babies. Our sweet baby boy Cooper. Well I call him a baby boy, he's not quite a baby anymore. We also have a new addition to our family. Blakely is our precious daughter. We are so truly blessed by out two amazing children. My husband and I got married in June of 2003. He is the most amazing supportive and understanding man. I am lucky to be married to such a wonderful man. I was diagnosed with PCOS. I don't ovulate very often. After years of trying, countless IUI'S and a miscarriage we turned to IVF with hopes that God would give us an angel baby to bless our lives. I started to blog to talk with other women who were struggling with infertility. To be able to vent my feelings and have support. Now I enjoy adding in all kinds of great things about my son and his life. We plan on trying to have more children in the future and doing IVF again if need be. But until then we are having the time of our lives enjoying our two little munchkins. GOD IS GOOD!
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DONT feel bad for ranting!! Needing me time is totally normal! Make sure you find at least a little so you stay sane!!
You aren't ranting, sweetie - it's something all mommies struggle with. Obviously, I haven't been keeping up with my blog either & I have been feeling little pangs of jealousy when I hear about friends meeting for happy hour or going out to dinner (sometimes I'm invited, other times not) and I am at home folding laundry. Like you, I wouldn't trade mommyhood for ANYTHING, but I do wish that I had one free night to myself once every few weeks.
You are not silly! You are normal. I am currently staying home with my girls - and all I crave is adult interaction and mental stimulation!! It's so crazy how what you don't have - you want. I LOVE being at home with them, but as you said...it's quite a job. I always thought it was what I wanted...and I still do, but it feels isolating at times. I can't imagine missing the girls, though. I have just come to accept that as a "mom" we can't have it all - all at the same time. So many moms with older kiddos tell me to enjoy this time b/c it gets HARDER later. Can you imagine?? :) I hope you are able to find a way to stay home. At least to give it a try. I know some moms who are thinking outside the box and working evenings. Even if their hubby can't make it home in time for them to work .. they hire a very PT nanny for the in between hours. Their are so many nannies looking for work and have cut their cost. Maybe working from home with a PT nanny?? Or - working PT evenings. Just some ideas. :)
I completely understand! I am in a rut right now, with being a SAHM I don't ever dress up, put makeup on, do my hair...and it's driving me nuts! I would like just a few hours to get a mani/pedi, go clothes shopping, or get my hair done. Fidning that balance is super tough, I have yet to find it yet.
I don't think you are complaining, you are being real. I want a baby so bad but I know at the same time there are huge sacrifices, like the one you talked about here. For myself I know this will also be a hard transition. I have no kids, so I have no advice.
What I can say is I think you are doing a phenomenal job with Cooper. He always looks so happy in the pics you post and you can tell that you give it your all. You are a GREAT mom!
I am thinking of you and hoping that you can find a bit of me time in the next few weeks!
You can never get enough time with your kids! I feel this way everyday! Also, even when you get the "me time" you want to rush home or rush to the other room just to see your baby! Being a mom does that to you! You are a great mommy... and that post just proved it and it definitely wasn't complaining at all!! Happy Birthday Cooper!
Girl I am right there with ya!
I try to only do things when B is taking a nap on the weekends or goes to bed at night. But by that time I'm exhausted too. Maybe one day we will get to be SAHM's!
I'm totally with ya on the wanting to be a stay-at-home-mom thing. I so want to be a SAHM. It's my heart's desire. I keep praying that God will make a way, somehow. I know He can do what seems impossible to me.
Our baby will be here in the next 4 weeks (hopefully) and thanks for the reminder to take some "me time".
As you can tell already you are NOT alone!
I think the first couple of weeks having Mason home were the easiest. Yea I was tired but he slept an awful lot and I was still able to shower, blog, read other blogs etc. Now I don't have time to do ANYTHING! And I stay home with Mason [although I desperately need a job]. I was working in NY, only 3 days a week but sometimes that felt like my "me" time as shitty at that sounds!
I know how you feel that you want to spend every single second with Coop because you miss him so much during the day but it's also okay to take some you time. You don't have to feel guilty about it {which I have a feeling is part of it too because I know it is with me}
I'm here to talk if you want to vent some more!
I'm glad you are cutting some time out for yourself. It's so hard, but so necessary!
I get my me time after Graham goes to bed and on the weekend. However, you're right, as a SAHM I can steal a few minutes here and there, like while he's eating lunch or napping (if I don't have too much housework to catch up on).
me time? what's that? i guess i'll get that again after my babies leave the nest...but then i'll probably use that time to see them every chance i can get! haha
i wish money grew on trees! i'd share w/you!
Girl since we moved to TX I have no me time either :( Its sucks and is takiing its toll on me as a person me as a wife and me as a mother! I am s stay at home mom too and I still dont have me time! Faith sleeps i clean she plays i play with her its never ending...so i feel ya and we know your not complaining! its just nice to get it out there!
Oh Melissa, I know what you mean. Since I started back to work, I have fewer and fewer minutes of "me" time. It's sad when you start to think of shaving your legs as a "luxery", and yet, we barely have time for that. If you find out a way to put in back into your schedule, please let me know...I'd love to find out the magic solution :)
It's completely understood, believe me, I get moments when I miss having a single moment to sit and not think about what the baby needs/wants, etc :) I dream of staying at home as a SAHM too, I think life would be much more menagable and enjoyable this way!
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