Tonight my husband and I met a couple we are friends with and their one year old daughter. We are walking in the restaurant and we run into a girlfriend of mine. She is there with two of her friends. She is telling me how great I look and how happy she is for us. Asking how far along we are (21 weeks starts today by the way :) as I say 21 weeks, one of the girls she's with starts saying loudly in a rude tone "oh my god, there is no way your 21 weeks. You don't even look pregnant. I'm not even going to stand up because you would be shocked if you see me at 26 weeks". I try to ignore this girl because she's not saying it in the nice way like "oh you look so good" no she was saying it rudely trust me. So I ignore her and sit down to eat with our friends but I can hear her saying over my shoulder how she can't believe how small my tummy is and that I'm 21 weeks. With this horrible tone and rude comments under her breathe. Normally I wouldn't let this sort of thing bother me but hormones and stuff and being so excited to be pregnant after all the meds and trying I of course want to look pregnant. So I let it bother me. I couldn't help but share this with you girls because it bothered me. Am I really that unbelievably small? I started out my pg 5' 2" weighing 106. I'm petite. I know weigh 117 and there is just what I would call a volley ball under my shirt. Not huge but bigger than my usual none the less. I eat good, the baby is growing good and my dr. never seemed worried so maybe he's just in there really good and tight in a ball? I don't know? I've never had a baby before. But I do know that I've wanted to be pregnant for my entire life it seemed. So I of course want to show, I want to look pregnant, not for tons of attention no but for the whole "I look and feel pregnant" part of it.
I'm going to get over this starting now because I know its even ridiculous I'm writing this but sometimes it hurts my feelings when people act like my baby is some undernourished tiny baby. I'm healthy and believe me I have cottage cheese legs like you wouldn't believe so I'm not all toned (although I would like to be). So I just don't get why someone would be so rude.
Anyways here's a pic of me now. and I took the liberty of attaching a pic of me at I believe about 10 weeks to show the changes. I feel bigger. I just hope I'm growing as I should. I know all pregnancy's are different and honestly the most important thing to me is that my baby and I are healthy and safe. So forget that mean girl and her rude tone!
And again sorry for the crazy hormonal pregnant women I'm being over here. I just needed to vent :)
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Don't worry, you look great and healthy (and definitely pregnant!). Every woman is different and will put on weight differently. If there was a concern, your doctor would definitely tell you. As for that woman, I am sure she is just jealous and insecure. She's probably worried that she's gaining too much weight during her pregnancy, and so when she sees you looking smaller, she feels the need to make nasty comments to make herself feel better. Anyway, just wanted to show my support!
Blow it off. You look wonderful. I wish I looked like you at 21 weeks, unfortunately I looked like a whale, I was pretty big, people always said, there is no way you have four months left. As long as your doctor isn't worried, there is no reason you should be. :)
She just wishes she was that small! Being big and prego is never fun! You couldnt tell I was prego until the last 2 months! Now that i have had her i gained all the weight i should have gained while pregnant! BOOO!!!
You look great! Smile!
I think you look perfect! You and the baby are both happy and healthy and that's all that matters. I sometimes wish people would keep those comments to themselves, but for some reason they don't! It isn't like you'd EVER walk up to someone who was up 40lbs by 21 weeks and say "geez, you're enormous!" so why would they worry you like this?!
Stay smiling -- you look amazing :-)
I just happened upon your blog and wanted to say that you look radiant!!! What a cute baby bump! Don't worry about what anyone says... I was really tiny at 21 weeks when I was pregnant as well and actually had someone tell me they didn't even think I was pregnant. People can be so rude, but pay them no mind! You're half way through... how exciting!!! :)
You look fabulous!!!
I really need to post a pic of my bump because yours is just as big as mine is and I'm 27 weeks. Just because that girl is probably as big as a whale and disgusted by it doesn't give her the right to be rude to you because you haven't lost all sense of your shape and gained a billion pounds. Okay, that was rude what I just said about her because I don't even know her but whatever, no pregnant women is the same and that certainly means that all bellies aren't going to be the same size. Try to not let that stuff bother you, you're growing this baby just perfectly. Ugghh.
Hunny, you look great!!! Just jealousy!
I just looked at my pictures and we are about the same at 21 weeks. Again, everyone if different!
Ignore her you look adorable! And everyone's tummies pop out a different times during their pregnancies. But you DO look pregnant so enjoy it, all of it.
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Oh Puleeze, you look great! I had a friend that was about your size and I couldn't tell she was pregnant until she was 7 months along. And she had an 8 1/2 pound baby!
you are just the cutest!! and your bump looks big to me. like they said, everyone is different!
She's just jealous. You look great and your little "peanut" is just fine!! :)
~Michelle
Thank you so very much for your sweet, sweet comment. I never thought of it like that. I am so grateful to have this blog to meet other wonderful people out there who are so supportive and understanding. Thank you so much, you truly made my day!!
~Michelle
Just got your comment on my last post. Thanks for all the assurance on the weight gain. ;) Rationalization is key! Hope you're doing well!
This is my first time visiting your blog...and I just have to say that I think you look PERFECT for 21 weeks pregnant! And absolutely sweet baby bump! Don't let rude people like that get you down. She was probbly just a fattie and couldn't figure out why your booty didn't look as frumpy as her's did! lol
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