Questions and answers part 2

Kelly asked:
What age did you get married?
I got married when I was 20 years old. We got engaged right after my 20th birthday and got married 8 months later.




she also asked:
Is mommy-hood everything you thought it'd be?
I believe I answered this one earlier on Hope's questions. So I won't bore you with the same answer again.

Hoping for our own Peanut / Erin asked:
Why do you always look gorgeous in every picture? Don't you have an "off" day?
Erin you are WAY to sweet. I have allot of off days. Shoot just today I was looking in the mirror thinking how pale I was looking. I don't like to go tan, So I've been trying the whole naturally pale look. I hope it works for me because I just won't go tanning anymore. I feel like its unsafe. I also really need to get my hair highlighted BAD. I go tomorrow, (the day your baby is born) for my appointment. I can't wait. But honestly thanks for the sweet question.
She also asked?
I wanna know about your hubby! Engagement? Honeymoon? More kids?
My husbands name is Julian, he is the most amazing supportive, sweet man. He is my very best friend and has been since we met. He truly is my rock. He was right at my side through all the infertility, through all my mood swings and breakdowns. He is such a goal driven man, I'm so proud of him. He makes me smile daily and my life is wonderful because of him.
Julian is a goal driven man, He owns his own mechanic shop about a mile from our home. He also works full time as an airplane mechanic. Yet family comes first and he still makes sure to always be home in the evenings. He didn't miss one doctors appointment with me. He is such a supportive husband. He's silly and goofy. He's strong, he plays the guitar and the drums. I feel like he can do nearly anything if he puts his heart into it. Julian isn't a trendy pretty boy. He doesn't mind getting dirty and doing hands on jobs. He did all the wood floor throughout our house. He wears his favorite Mr. T t-shirt as often as possible and people love him for it. He is an amazing man. He even helps me with dinner some nights without complaining and he does the dishes every night because he knows how much I hate dishes. :)


I answered the engagement question above.
Honeymoon! Well we went to Cancun. To be honest we had the most amazing wedding ever. It was all I could dream of and more. We spent a few extra days here after our wedding with all of our family in town. We had a blast with everyone. We left for Cancun. It was my first trip out of the country. I had a moment where I did end up busting into tears because of multiple reasons. It was storming in Cancun non-stop. I had just had the most amazing time of my life. It was over. I was sad it was done, and I was in another country for the first time. Julian was so sweet though. He called my parents and let them talk to me for a minute. I realized how silly I was being and apologized to Julian. We had a great time on our honeymoon. I have many good memories from all the things we did while there. It did however end up raining and storming the entire time we were there. The day we left they opened the beach back up and allowed us to get into the water. I think one day we will have to go back and spend the entire time on the beach like we should have been able to do when we went the first time. Like a second honeymoon :)
Kids?
I answered this one earlier as well. Yes most definitely more kids.
No doubt if God will help us to have them we will have more for sure. I worry about the infertility issues but at the same time I know we made it through once and we can do it again.

Julian (my husband) from Random Crap asked:
So what's it like having the greatest husband of all time?
And this is why I love him so much, He's so funny and silly. You are a great husband. Its amazing having you as my hubby.

Urban adventure tales asked:
Do you think you'd ever plan to adopt?
Absolutely, Adoption is something I have always felt I should do. I was blessed by God and was able to have my sweet son, and plan to try again for another. But in the future I would absolutely love to be able to be a mother to a child who deserves and needs my love and support through life. I would most definitely adopt.

Kerry asked:
What is your engagement ring like?
My engagement ring is what I always said I wanted. Its white gold, Its princess cut. I have my wedding band witch is white gold with diamonds set along the whole top of the band, I also have the band for the other side the same as my wedding band. Both of these are saudered on.
When I was in high school in my senior memory album I cut out a picture of my dream engagement ring and pasted it into the book. My engagement ring looks very much like the one I cut a picture out of. I love it and I love what it stands for. I have my wedding band on one side from our wedding day and on the other I have the other wedding band that Julian just gave me in the hospital the day our son was born. It finalizes my wedding rings, it makes us a whole. A family.
She also asked:
How did he propose?
Do you want anymore babies?Since I already answered these two questions I will move to her last question.
Do you have any pets?
Yes we do! We have a boxer named Bailey, She is 6 years old this week. We absolutely love her. She is such a riot. She is so sweet but a little hyper active. But we love her to death.
We also have a beagle named Annie who is 5 years old. She is opinionated and stubborn but smart as can be. We love her too so much. She likes to cuddle and she loves to kill any animal that comes into our backyard and bring it to our back door. Disgusting huh! We don't hunt with her or anything its just her breed. She is so proud. She has unfortunately killed many rabbits and brought them to us. Crazy dogs.




Well I think thats all for the questions. Thanks for asking ladies. I hope I answered what you wanted to know.

8 WEEKS TODAY

Today our sweet Cooper is 8 weeks old. It is amazing that 8 weeks ago he came into our lives. The time is flying by and we are loving him each and every moment.

Cooper,
Mommy and Daddy love you more than words could ever explain. We will always be here for you. To support you and teach you, to love you and take care of you. Happy 8 weeks sweetie. We couldn't be more in love with you and we are so happy that God blessed us with your beautiful life.

Love you angel,
Mom and dad

Questions and answers part 1

Hoping for Hoberts asked:
We all desperately wanted a baby and had to jump through a million hoops to get here however..... What do you miss about not having Coop around?
The thing I miss the most about not being a mom is the sleep. I know that sounds crazy but I don't handle the lack of sleep well and I get so exhausted. I feel nauseous and I get rude. Its by far the best trade off ever though. I know I will get back to a place where I can get a good nights rest again but right now it seems really far away.

The Rolands, Lea Liz asked:
How did you and your husband meet?
My husband and I met when we were 15 years old through a friend. He took me to my 9th grade formal dance that year. We talked on the phone all the time. Wrote notes back and forth in school but didn't start to actually "go out"/Date until a week after my 16th birthday. We dated ever since. The first time I met Julian he was so quiet and shy, We hardly even spoke. I thought he was cute of course but it was hard to get to know him. I was nervous and insecure, he was shy. But somehow we made it happen and finally did date.
She also asked.
How did he propose?
Our dating anniversary was on August 11th. We had been dating for 5 years and he came to pic me up at my apartment. I was 20 years old. He came in and we had dinner plans to celebrate our anniversary. He looked so nervous, I was wondering what was going on.
We had both dressed up and looked really nice. We sat and talked for a minute before we left, then we got up to leave to go to dinner when he stopped me and got down on one knee. He was teary eyed and choked out the words "will you marry me"? I was truly surprised. Of course I said yes. We cried and hugged. I was in shock. I of course called my mom and dad and he called his to tell the good news. We ended up going to a park and spending some time together talking (mostly me talking) about what colors we would use, who would be in the wedding. It was my dream come true, I had always wanted to talk about those things with him but didn't want to seem like some crazy chic. We went to dinner where he ended up telling me that he had planned to ask me later that night to marry him but that he was so nervous he thought he was going to be sick if he didn't just go ahead and do it then. :) It was a truly great night. It was such a beautiful day to top it off. We have great memories of that day.
She also asked.
Where are your favorite places to shop?
I LOVE to shop. I have a serious problem. I've gotten much better the past year or so but honestly I have a shopping addiction. Mainly for clothes. I have a ton.
I like cheap and trendy clothes. That way each year I can pretty much redo my wardrobe. I shop at Forever 21, Charlotte Russe, Francessca's, sometimes the Gap, and Express but I like to stick to the cheap clothes.

Hope asked:
Has motherhood been what you expected?
Yes and no. Motherhood has surprised me in many ways. It is the most amazing gift.
I was amazed at the truly strong bond and love that immediately took over me when I had him. For the protective crazy love I have for him. Its hard sometimes. I get really tired and worn out and exhausted and frustrated. But somehow I am able to enjoy his little faces he makes, the noises, the different cries (although sad, they are also adorable). He has a few different cries and my husband and I like to impersonate them. In a nice way of course :)
I have had to get used to everything being about him. Nothing is about me anymore. My life revolves around what he needs and when, who he's with, if he's OK, is he happy and fed and clean. It revolves around him and that's fine. But it is an adjustment. I have had to get used to waking up earlier to take him to his sitters, I've had to realize that I have to go to work every day and leave him. Although he's with family its been such a hard thing to do. Its not me with him every day and that breaks my heart.
Contrary to what some people say your life does not end when you have a baby. Yes it changes but my husband and I still can go to dinner or to a friends, We can still do things. Its just a little different. So don't listen to people when they say "enjoy your last few days of freedom, You'll never have it again". Not true. Not true at all.
She also asked:
What is the best thing about being a mom and what is the hardest?
The best thing is looking at his face and seeing my husband. Knowing that he and I and God made this beautiful miracle. And that I was chosen to be his mom, to raise him and teach him and love him always. Its the best feeling in the world. I look forward to so many memories we will make with him in the future.
The hardest is the adjustments. The lack of sleep, the change in your morning routine (if you have to go back to work). But truly I wouldn't change it for the world. I'm still trying to learn to adjust. Its amazing that my life has changed so much in just the past two months. For the better but its a huge change and I believe it takes time to get fully comfortable with these big changes in your life.
Motherhood is amazing though.

Emily asked:
How did I meet my hubby? But since I answered that one above I will move onto the next question she asked me.
Did you go to college? Where?
This is a hard question for me. I'm not one to say that all people have to go to college and that if you don't your a loser or anything like that.
I went to a community college near my house in Tulsa. At the time my parents lived in Norman where they had moved a few years earlier. I moved back to Tulsa because that is where my friends and some aunts, and grandparents lived. I wanted to live near my boyfriend. I decided to move back. I went to the community college and planned to transfer over to a university. However plans changed. I got a job, started doing bad in college, got engaged and basically let it slip through my fingers. I regret not finishing to college. I know I can still go back and I would love to but my main priority is being in my sons life. I have so many things I'd like to do but being home every night and weekend and spending what time I can with my son is my top priority.
I have a great job, I make good money. I am lucky to have that. But I will feel a void for not finishing school. Its something I always wanted to do for myself and maybe one day I will?
She also asked:
What's your favorite book?
I'm not a big reader. But I absolutely LOVED the twilight series. Wow, Those books took complete hold over me. They are what got me through the ivf. I needed something to take my mind off of things. We had to travel 6 hours to do the transfers. It took 3 trips and about 10 days out of town total to get the whole ivf process done. My doctor administered the meds here in Tulsa but I had to drive to st. Louis for the end process 3 different times. Needless to say we weren't at home, we were in a hotel and those twilight books are what got me through. Without loosing my mind. I was so engulfed in what would happen next I tried to focus on them and not on my complete fears and worries about the ivf. Although I was still very much worried and thought about what we were going through constantly those books kept my attention and helped me through.

Our family asked:
I know you had difficulty getting pregnant with Cooper. Are you planning on trying to have any more children in the future? If so, how many years would you like to wait between children?
Yes we did have troubles getting pregnant. I am most definitely planning on trying again. I want 3-4 kids if God will bless us with them. With me having pcos I am under the understanding that it will only get harder with each year my body ages. So I of course being 27 this year don't want to put it off to long. My husband and I plan on trying the ivf again when Cooper is around 1 year old. We have to pay off the ivf bills before we can try again. But until then we are not using anything to prevent. Although when I do, there is a big chance I could have a miscarriage. I only say that because we have some sort of morphing problem with our embryo's. We need to do further testing to see what happened when we did our ivf. We took out 12 eggs and on day 3 they were looking great, we were told we should have lots to freeze and a few great quality to put back in. By day 5 they had nearly stopped growing. They told us we probably wouldn't be able to do the ivf. We waited for a miracle and on day 6 we got a phone call that 1 had made it to day 6. We don't know what happened to the rest or why they just suddenly stopped morphing. But with the grace of God we were able to implant that one egg and now we have a beautiful son. However we are now afraid of having a miscarriage "If" I even am able to get pg on my own. Which is a small chance since I hardly ever ovulate. But we are leaving it up to God. We are praying for another miracle and for the opportunity to get pregnant on our own and for it to be a good pregnancy. and If not we will go back for another round of ivf for baby number two and hope and pray it works.

Blog makeover

As most of you may notice I now have a nice new blog makeover including a new and improved title to my blog. I used to be ivf infertility. We changed the name to Hanging with Mr. Cooper. Since this blog was about our journey through ivf and pregnancy. This blog is now about our angel baby and what we had to do to become a family of three. One day we plan on expanding this family even further, but until then we will be focusing on sharing the life of our little man and the changes we are going through with every day that passes. I hope you enjoy my newly designed page.
Kelly over at www.oxboroughchaos.com designed this page for us. She did a fabulous job. I just want to thank her for doing this for us. It looks great Kelly.

Ask away

I've seen on a few blogs where people allow you to ask questions. And then in another post you answer their questions. So I decided because I enjoy reading about these people and hearing their answers that I would do this on my blog as well.

So now is the time. Ask away. Anything you would like to know I will share.

Video Camera advice.

We are wanting to buy a new video camera. We don't have one and our regular camera does but the microphone is messed up. We want to be able to have these memories to watch one day. I figured I could go online and search whats the most popular brand. But I thought most of you probably have a video camera and could tell me if you like it and why and what the brand is or if you dislike what you bought. Any advice ladies before we go buy one?

I appreciate any tips or info you want to give. We are planning on getting one in the medium price range.

Thanks,
Melissa

Halloween and a big smile

Halloween
Uncle Mark and Cooper
grandma and Cooper



Papa and Cooper, He loves his papa and grandma

Mommy and Coop time before bed Friday night.


Sitting in his chair in his bedroom taking pics with mommy


Getting ready to hit the road to go to grandma and papa's house.




6 weeks and 3 days old. That's how old my son was the first time he smiled back at me and his daddy. We got to see this together, experience it together for the first time. It was Halloween day and we were in Norman visiting my parents and my mom was holding Cooper on the couch talking to him. I decided to go join her so we both sat talking and smiling at him and suddenly a corner of his mouth went up. I screamed for Julian to come join us and I told him that It looked like he wanted to smile at us. We all three talked and smiled and sure enough he looked at us and then suddenly a huge smile came across his face. Followed by many others in the seconds following. It was the most beautiful little smile I've ever seen in my life. This is the first time he's ever responded to us with a smile. It was such a great experience. None of us could get up though to go get our camera so we were unable to capture the first smiles on a picture or video. We will be keeping it near so we can get it soon though and share it with everyone.

Halloween was fun. My husband went to the OU game with my brother and my parents and Aunt, Cousin and I and Coop stayed home and watched it on tv. We had a great night hanging out with everyone and towards the end of the night we put Cooper in his costume. He was a giraffe. SO CUTE. He looked so cuddly and sweet. We took a few pictures and then it was time for bed for him so we had to take him out of it for bath time and night night.
Norman didn't do Halloween Saturday night. Since the big college OU football game was going on that evening the city of Norman changed the holiday to Friday night. It was weird because we weren't there on Friday night and then Saturday night wasn't Halloween there so we sort of missed Halloween this year. I didn't get to see any cutie pie kids coming up to the door saying TWICK OR TWEET! I'm sort of sad but oh well. Next year Julian and I will take Cooper to a few houses by ours and it will feel like a real Halloween.

We did have a great weekend though with my parents. Since I love to share pictures with everyone here are a few pics of our weekend.